Did you know that I failed at least 30 times last month? I get rejected and ignored on a daily basis. I would say almost 100 brands didn’t want to work with me just this year. You might see the Instagram highlight reel but what is happening behind the scenes is tough.

In the beginning of 2020, I was a really weak person. If a brand didn’t answer my emails, I would get sad. If I went months without making a profit, I would complain. If bloggers were better or more successful than me, then I would unfollow them because I couldn’t handle watching their success. I kept saying, “why me God? why am I working so hard for something that is never going to work? when do I get my chance? when do I get my breakthrough?”

Did you know that Thomas Edison tried more then 10,000 times to invent the lightbulb? Successful people have one thing in common: they don’t let their failures stop them! The breakthrough happened for me when I was working 8-5 at the dental office. I had a super long day, and as soon as I got home from work I had to shoot a campaign. I was exhausted, hungry, and I looked across the living room and realized Grayson was playing leggos by himself. I was so “busy” that I didn’t even say hi when I got home. I told myself at that moment that I could never do that to him again.

The blog started making more of a profit when I started treating it like a business and when I stopped getting upset about failure. I started expecting a no and getting excited when I got a yes. I stopped being negative about the success of others and started investing in myself more. I started eating healthier, working out, and carving out blocks of time to have undistracted time with my family. I detoxed a lot of negative people out of my life. I suggest you do the same.

I just want you to remember that when I first started a blog, no one believed in me. Friends made fun of me. The family thought I was crazy for trying to make a business out of social media. I wish I had a dollar for every time someone said, “how do you make money doing that?” Do you know what the funny part is? They act like it is the coolest thing in the world now!

Do you want to be an influencer? Why? It is because you want free clothes? It is because you think it’s easy? Do you want it for the fame? If you do it for those reasons, you will not make it. I started a blog because I wanted to inspire others to show up as their best self. I wanted to help moms feel good when they got dressed because I know what it’s like to cry in a dressing room.

Chris looked at me 2 weeks ago, when I was at the lowest point in my life, and said, “Kelly, everyone believes in you and it’s time that you start believing in yourself!” I didn’t start becoming successful until I became fearless. I had to stop beliving that superman was coming or that someone had my back. The fear of failure will not control my life anymore. I am a FULL-TIME BLOGGER! If I fail then I am going to fail forward.

Thank you for supporting me and accepting me as my raw and real self. More exciting content to come!

My biggest tips on how to live a happy and successful life:

• Detox negative friends and family out of your life
• Eat healthy
• Exercise
• Be debt free
• If you do what’s hard then your life will be easy, if you do what’s easy then your life will be hard.
• If you want to be successful you must study success
• The only thing I gave up in the four years of working a side hustle was T.V. Think about all you can do instead of watching T.V.
• Cancel cable and read a book instead
• You are never to old to learn something new
• If someone is mean to you that is their problem not yours
• Pray and pray often
• Build a relationship with God
• Your babies are only little once, get off your phone
• You will never make money working for someone else
• Your life is like a vapor. What are you going to accomplish while you are here?
• Make more so you can give more
• Stop getting advice from someone that has never successfully done it.