Let’s get real, marriage is so hard. Chris and I are going on 7 years and each year I believe we become closer and closer. We are not perfect by any means, but I do believe that we constantly work on our relationship and make a phenomenal team! Each day we fall deeper in love and fight less because we use these daily tips!

1. Start a family budget– Did you know that most breakups are over finances? If you guys can’t control your money then your marriage could end in divorce. We follow Dave Ramsey’s baby steps to map out our financial goals. We immediately stopped fighting once we developed a budget. We started taking control of our money instead of our money controlling us. I made a blog post on how we do our budget so definitely check that out if you are interested.
2. Date nights are not just important they are vital– I know it’s hard to get some time away from your babies right now since we are in quarantine but you can still have a date night when you put them down for a bed/nap. That time when the babies go to bed is your time as a couple to reconnect. Start a show together, cuddle, and just spend time together over a glass of wine. We have even been dressing up and ordering to go once a week just to keep things fun while we are in quarantine! Never stop thinking outside of the box and surprising each other.
3. Eat Healthy and Exercise– I noticed when Chris and I were working on healthy goals together that we became more attracted to each other. Diet and exercise help with anxiety and stress so much that you will start to see a noticeable difference in all your relationships. We meal prep together to make sure we are both getting a ton of nutrients in our diet. Chris will typically grill the meat while I prep the sides. Its a WIN/WIN!
4. Chores are a Team Effort– Okay, so you guys fight about who does what around the house. That’s pretty typical and I know we have done our fair share of fighting about that. We combat that by making a chore list and tackling the chores at the same time. For instance, he does the dishes while I give the babies a bath. He rocks Annie Kate while I help Grayson go to bed. He takes Annie Kate to school while I take Grayson to school. Divide and conquer my friends! We have assigned jobs and a routine that works well for us. Routines are key!
5. Everyone Needs a Hobby– My hobby is blogging and his hobby is golf. We both take turns on getting some friend time or alone time in because it keeps our relationship healthy. If you are getting mad about your boyfriend or husband leaving the house to play golf then try to find a hobby that you can do while they are spending time away.
6. Trust is EVERYTHING– I cannot say this enough but trust is so important. You have to give trust to get trust in any relationship. That means, no checking phones. That also means speaking up and telling the truth about how you feel at all times. Sometimes it’s hard to be open and have honest conversations but they strengthen your relationships. It is the foundation.
7. Spiritual Connections are Important– We watch church together every single Sunday and I love that intimate spiritual time together. When we go to church the babies go to their little Sunday school classes so we can hear the preacher uninterrupted. Praying and taking communion together has brought us closer together. I truly believe you need God to help foster your marriage.
8. Sleep on it– Remember when your mom said never go to bed angry. Well, I disagree, because sometimes you just need a minute to cool off. Most of the time when you wake up in the morning you both are just over it. Sometimes it’s best to go outside or take a walk and just breathe. Life is too short to be fighting so many times here lately I swallow my pride and give in. It’s just not worth it.

I hope these tips helped to influence your marriage in a positive way! I don’t want anyone to think we are perfect because we have had our fair share of fights. Before the budget and a healthy lifestyle, our marriage was struggling so I am so happy to see how far we have come. Chris is and will always be the best gift God has ever given me. I am one lucky woman to have such a lifelong partner that believes and encourages me so much. I can’t even count the times he has held me while I have cried myself to sleep.

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